Last day, I made an interesting experience.

I had just discovered that a past partner in my MLM business, let’s call her Mary, had used a very clever social media trick to prospect me and the people of my organisation for her new company.

I felt betrayed and angry, and I started writing an agressive letter to warn my current partners about the trap into which they had been caught. 

But while I was writing, another feeling was taking more and more space in my heart : a kind of guilt of doing something wrong.

Then I realized something big : what if my viewpoint on Mary’s manoeuver was not the only one?

And what if my words inspired by such negative feelings would do worse than better to the people I wanted to save from that supposedly ignominious trap?!

Well, to be honest, my little ego didn’t let me get rid of the betrayal and angry feelings entirely, BUT I suddently felt excited by another idea : the most important thing in this situation was actually WHY I was feeling that way…

I discovered that my feeling of betrayal came from a little program called « I hate when someone is using me and treating me like an idiot» and that the anger came from another program called « Don’t hurt my friends or… »

Deciding to let my little ego live alone with the idea that it had been treated like an idiot, and making the choice that my friends were strong enough to take care of themselves, I made another interesting discovery.

When caught in a confrontational situation with another person, the only thing which should matter is my World Within (my feelings, the believes that triggered them and the resulting thoughts), therefore allowing to focus my attention on how to evolve personnally, rather than on the circumstances that triggered the situation in the first place.

I imagine this is what I could call « doing the best for myself. »

I came next to realize that my new thoughts, feelings and actions resulting from this new behavior were also triggering a better service to other people, involved or not in the initial confrontational situation.

So, the bottom line is, if I am taking care of myself first, I am also delivering a better service to others.

Isn’t this magic?!

Thanks to the MKMMA to help me becoming a better self directed thinker!